[Thecus 2100] r8169 won't talk 100Mbps when cross-connected to PC?

Hi folks,

Per request of Martin Michlmayr, I'm sending you information about a curious
issue I'm experiencing with the ethernet on my Thecus 2100, running the
stock Debian 2.6.30 kernel package from unstable.

$ uname -a
Linux becquer 2.6.30-1-iop32x #1 Mon Jun 15 05:25:53 UTC 2009 armv5tel GNU/Linux
$ lspci -nn | grep Eth
00:01.0 Ethernet controller [0200]: Realtek Semiconductor Co., Ltd. RTL-8169 Gigabit Ethernet [10ec:8169] (rev 10)
00:02.0 Ethernet controller [0200]: Realtek Semiconductor Co., Ltd. RTL-8169 Gigabit Ethernet [10ec:8169] (rev 10)
$

If I connect this system to a 10/100Mbps netgear switch, it happily
negotiates 100baseTx-FD and chats away with the world:

# mii-diag eth0
Basic registers of MII PHY #32:  1000 796d 001c c913 0de1 45e1 0005 2001.
 The autonegotiated capability is 01e0.
The autonegotiated media type is 100baseTx-FD.
 Basic mode control register 0x1000: Auto-negotiation enabled.
 You have link beat, and everything is working OK.
 Your link partner advertised 45e1: Flow-control 100baseTx-FD 100baseTx
 10baseT-FD 10baseT, w/ 802.3X flow control.
   End of basic transceiver information.

#

If, however, I connect it with a crossover cable to either my mythtv box
(SiS900, max speed 100Mbps), or to my laptop (Intel 82573 GigE) hard-coded
to only negotiate 100Mbps, the Thecus successfully sends frames out
(verified with tcpdump), but never sees the replies from the other end.

If I poke things into either GigE mode or 10Mbps mode, it works fine.  But
this is somewhat unsatisfactory given that I want it hooked up to the box
with the SiS chip, and would rather not have it running at 10Mbps. :)

Cheers,
-- 
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